“I’ll have what she’s having”  

Do you remember what movie that was from?  

Of course, you do. It was 'When Harry Met Sally'. It was unforgettable. As unforgettable as my grandma taking me to see Basic Instinct but that is a story for another day. 

Recall the scene when Sally shrieks with delight in the diner. Her envious table neighbour says “I’ll have what she is having”.  

Sally was clear on what she wanted. She wanted a partner who could keep her happy in all the ways. Harry was her best friend but they made a pact to hook up if they did not find life partners.  

Fast forward years through relationship highs, lows, dramas, and breakups. Spoiler alert..... (I used to work with 2 people – adults - who had not seen Star Wars so it is possible). They “found” each other. Sally got what she wanted. Harry was always there right in front of her.  

OK Grow Tribe…..hang with me.  

Now consider leadership. We know what we want but we do not see the opportunity to have it that is right in front of us.  

I was supporting a leader who had clear career aspirations (cue applause). She looked up in her business and said to herself “I’II have what she is having”.  

Yet her weeks and mind were full of stuff. She felt she was not making progress. She was worked hard to prove her potential and why she should be promoted. Instead of being on the career fast-track she was on the burnout fast-track.  

She was speed dating and available, but she was not getting what she wanted. 

I sat in Talent Reviews (discussions to match the business goals with the people goals) for 20 years. No one ever said, “We cannot promote him/her because they ONLY hit all the goals and supported their team". Never. Ever.     

Harry and Sally remind us to save energy, time and money by focusing on what is in front of us right now. My client got clear on her goals (what she wanted) and was successful in getting them. She restored her social life, got back to yoga and unlocked a ton of time (stopped trying to solve every problem her company had). The best bit was she got promoted by ONLY delivering what the businesses needed of her and enjoying her life.  

She got Harry (minus burnout).  

Success was always right in front of her – she did not think it could be that simple. She avoided failed relationships, break-up recovery time and constant updating of her “dating profile”.  

I can relate - you?  

I made a pavlova. In a moment of Nigella inspired enthusiasm, I added an extra topping layer. The pavlova sunk as I unnecessarily overcomplicated the elegant simplicity.   

On another occasion I wasted time, dollars and energy scrambling to find a person for a key role in my team. In my wide and desperate search, I overlooked the person that was always there. She was ready enough and waiting for the opportunity.  

4 tips to hook up with Harry (or Sally) now:  

2. Get clear that only Harry or Sally will do (be specific) 

3. Tell your friends and colleagues you are hooking up with Harry or Sally (be accountable) 

4. Celebrate the first date and the wedding (be celebrating)  

Do you need help setting and getting what is important to you and this year? Coaching help you do that. Schedule a chat today.   

Big growth love,